Regardless the animal was never trained properly and she has no intentions of attempting to do so. Her dog, physically, is unique and lovable. I have 2 other dogs and 2 kids here to take care of also. I mean really, to sleep in another room because her royalty takes up your space !! Its not worth it. They are animals. I accidentally stepped on her foot and caught myself (minimal impact). Is there any way we could train my dog to be obediant with my husband just so this will stop. Usually in the winter she stays in. This cat drives me up the wall, it sheds hair like crazy, bangs on doors and cries all night, it sleeps in our bed if its allowed in and attacks our feet ( bizarre) while my husband lovingly indulges its bad behaviour. I do not sleep in the bed because of itching smell and the constant licking. First off I love animals. Im not sure what to do at this point, most angry pet owners will just say to leAve or end it. She hardly barks and does not defecate or urinate in the home. Its hard to throw a marriage away because of this, only you will know whats best for you. I get so mad and my wife just says oh, it is ok, he is old. All this with the power of love. Your allergies seem much more extreme but I have minor allergies to my boyfriends dog and it makes my nose itch its so frustrating. #dogtraining #dogtrainer #phoenixdogtraining #scottsdaledogtraining #dogbehaviorist #dogwhisperer #dogaggression #puppy #housetraining. I cant help that, he was like that when he came to me from his last family. If someone wants to to change/abandon such a big part of your life it is a huge wake up call. Hi. At first she was very welcomed and loved by me and my sons. Why would he want to lure her away? I will on my own hide the ball after a significant amount of play time but all that happens is the Boston will run around in desperate and panicked fashion looking for it and my girlfriend will ultimately give it to him. He wont listen to him and its making the situation worse! Thats ridiculous. An animal however lives by loyalty. Dog lovers can be incredibly obnoxious and many dont hesitate to passively aggressively force others family members of even total strangers to put up with their child, as they refer to the animals. Hopefully she can help me get through this. I felt rushed to eat my dinner. Ive been around a few months and he has learned a lot from me training him but she puts in no effort. Anybody who tries to force someone to get rid of their dog is either a selfish idiot or a narcissist and we all know that you dont want any part of that crazy rollercoaster of a life. I just changed my entire life for this man and dont want to lose him or my dog advice anyone ??? So, we gonna look into what you can do when your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of or rehome your dog. He also has this really sweet tempered dog that he adores. Sorry for the monologue! I agree with you about having a life without a dog. His wife was disgusted because she said that the dog should have stayed on the ground while they ate and now the next person that comes in will be sitting and eating where a dog was? Dont get me wrong, I love animals, but It just caused multiple fights between us. Everyone loves him and he is the most loveable,obedient dog ever. Or pushes him down MY bed while hers is on it.. Or pushes him always off her way or freaks out about him being always in the way. Sometimes I can hear him waiting and listening to my partners footsteps. I know the situation is not helped by my depression and anxiety so Ive booked a session with a counsellor but I seriously dont know how to get past this. My God there are some idiots commenting on this thread. Its been a month since Ive written and my girl friend and I broke up. I have told him I dont like her sleeping in our room because she pees in her bed sometimes and I want my room to be clean, but he feels guilty that shes alone at night. This can get a little heated between us sometimes. So, there is no need to change. People so often posit their relationships with their pets on nothing beyond feel good feelings they get from the pet being fully dependent upon them, when they would never accept that type of arrangement with another human being. A new poll of 3,500 dog parents from . I enjoy cuddling with him. Lots of men in the world who love dogs and arent nasty jerks. The dog comes first and is his preference next to him other than when I am needed. I want to have a fresh start together and build a happy marriage and we want to start a family. Doesnt mean that the person has herpes, its a different virus and specific to mouth sores (as I understand it, anyways). His house is small and we live in rural America. I keep telling him that this dog will also calm down and how everybody we meet on walks thinks my dog is amazing, he is happy to see everybody and cuddles for a few minutes and then is ready to move on. She would look at him and then get off the couch and go up a set of steps he made to their bed. I sit there trying to enjoy dinner while watching her dog on the couch hovering over her plate! Later I said, hed save me and blame me for the dog dying. I truly in all my heart believe that people who choose animal relationships over human ones need therapy. Who runs the show you or the dog? But it has come down to him or my dog this is literally breaking my heart we are broken up right now over this!! With that being said I lost all patience and I could never make her give up her dog so in my case (Not suggesting you do the same) I left!!! I just dont know what to do. Thank you. Finger crossed for ya! I have pretty much put my foot down and the dog has to stay in her bed all the time. because thats BS ALL hairy animals that spend time both inside and out do. Lets face reality. Some of our friends and family members are not dog people, and well be damned if we alienate those people over a dog. Stay out of the kitchen when we are eating (would also want when we are cooking), stay off the couch and out of the bedroom. Isnt that crazy?! Your task is to re-direct that energy. Now dont get me wrong I have my human company and my furry company. Lets talk about the very annoying fact that this dog has to be or sleep everywhere she does, especially her BED! >90% of rabies vaccinations are effective, and, a rabid animal would have to have bit your pet. A part of me feels like I know that this dog means so much more to him. I said I would not get married if she slept in the bed. My partner is so wonderful she had already done research on how to make our future home livable for me when I expressed my concern. The dogs follow my husband constantly and they are constantly in the way, so you have to be careful where you walk for you not to fall. He gets very frustrated with them always being under us, the bullying of one to the other, the barking outside, the dog hair in the house even though I vacuum multiple times a week etc Any one have any help or advice to help work this issue out? You could tell she loved him a lot. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. My girlfriend has a dog who Ive been polite with and tend to when Im the only one around. I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. The one you presented is simply the most popular. Our older dog is a big rottweiler. And then all those hairs EVERYWHERE and a constant smell of ammonia of all the pee in the house. It is very frustrating, but while I understand he is a puppy and also my sons best friend, my husband just feels angry about it and has unconsciously refused to get close to the dog. Says it all right there! I told him if he brings the dog to the house, I will have no alternative but to put him back to the basement. I also have to watch them when hes out of town which is several times a year. He rarely listens to my fianc. and my husband had never discouraged this. When we first moved in together almost a year ago, I told my boyfriend that i dont let animals sleep in the bed (even my two cats whom I love to death), and he said that was fine with him. She did the bed thing ONCE in the beginning and I only got one hour sleep and was a wreck the next day and said never again. Shes sometimes peeing in the bed or pooping on the floor even tho she was outside but I always told myself her behavior is like that because of her negative past. And I was itchy and got rashes while she was on the bed. But you can break free of that abusive situation once you see the whole picture, the picture that we are all trying to help you to see. In my opinion you only making it worse and making him think he is the alpha male as he gets his way. my wife and i just got into another argument due to her dogs! Apologizing and thinking we can both move on didnt do the trick either. I like his cat. My house (which I paid for) will be destroyed, but it doesnt matter because its just a house. I said screw it at one point and kicked him out of the room and shut the door on him. To the guy with the Puppy Pitt whos wife cages the puppy. Its possible that letting your pet wash mouth sores could spread them (cause immediate additional sores), but again, this is a virus under discussion. My fiance has made comments on having to choose between his dog and i, and its his dog he would choose. I wish I had ended my relationship like you did. I was utterly devastated. I hate when the dog gets up because hair just flys off of her. It seems reasonable to need a bit of adjustment time. He MUST put the relationship over the bulldog. He couldnt stand him. Everything about her dog does nothing short of threaten to blow my fuse. I moved to the US to be with my husband, so I left everything and everybody behind to be with him. Now that everything is settled I noticed he was loving the dog more as well. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Im sad to say that things have only gotten worse. It justs neverending. But I guess you are right, for the life of the dog the smell will remain. They just dont get the socialization they need-especially in winter. My situation felt so nuts, I felt as though I was going insane to the point I sought counseling because I loved my DH. How rude, especially for women, yet she never did anything wrong! If I get up from the couch she will jump in my place and not move and the GF just smiles it off. The dog is old and likely wont live another year. When I came into her life she had a pup and it got on my nerves to the end and back. In fact, whats the point of adopting a dog if you cannot care about him. I dont know why people like that breed. A ten month old Puppy is not going to be a perfect dog. It is driving me insane. After I had my baby he prefers to stay by the dog and not usthe dogs doesnt sleep in the bed anymore but she sleeps in our room. i know its what dogs do, but the other one doesnt sit and beg. Well guys after two years I ended up loving the dog, she sleeps on the bed and my relationship is better than its ever been. Hes pulled some curtains off the frame and we need to replace it. They were very terrified. He just took her in and expected me to be on board. Even then, its not too excited about anything. Which came first the dog humping or the social isolation? Then my bf would get mad at me for making unreasonable demands ie, basically just wanting the dog to be trained. She also sleeps on our legs which keeps me awake I told my GF this is not on. Husband told me years ago about his best friend (human) that I would be gone before his friend, as I didnt want his friend in my house. Most of these problems come from women, judging by these posts, who overly love their pets and cant seem to compromise other than say if hes not a pet person we cant have a successful relationship. I believe women need to stop giving dogs human characteristics and treat them like an animal. Or perhaps animals have been the only creatures that have ever treated us better than our spouses or how our fellow humans. act. What ever happened in this situation? I think the marriage should be prioirity number 1 and that both parties should agree on this. You can judge a mans true character by the way he treats his fellow animals. -Paul McCartney. We recently moved in together and he never had her properly trained so we are working on house training even though shes almost 3 and shouldve already done this as a puppy. I honestly believe its because people get dogs when they are single and lonely. Now I dont care how much you hate a dog, you do not have the right to do that. Theres definitely no love there! They were shaking so bad and drooling from immense fear. And one of the dogs, also keeps drinking from the toilet and chews up garbage from the trash can in the bathroom, even underwear! Our carpets smelled fresh and the general filth level in our home dramatically decreased. I knew he was cuddling her and letting her lick his lips. When you do your relationship with your dog and SO will be alot more successful. I am more upset with him that he refuses to set boundaries for her. At first, I liked her. Show intitiative. I really dont like all the shedding and constant licking but I compromised (foot of the bed at least, dog bed on floor at best) and I also wear earplugs. But its not the poor canines fault that the masses have chosen to objectify the loyal animal forgetting this is a living creature not a fad. Idiots owning idiots. There are PLENTY out there who would appreciate your dream and realize how AWESOME you are. Fencing doesnt work either, as it will tear itself sore scratching against the fence. I was so relieved when we moved 3 hours away to stay with other family that doesnt allow dogs. If you endeavor with a strong mind, you will be able to turn this offensive dog into an affectionate, kind to kids, loving canine. Let the dog sleep on the floor! I have hired a contractor to place a wall between the one and two car garage so that the dog can have its own space and so the my husbands yard and hunting supplies would not hinder me as I get into my car. And I cant stand to think I have to take care of the dog after the baby is born. If the dog is bad and messes and just doesnt obey then you are selfish for thinking like that and he/she is much better off without you. Dogs are animals they should not be sleeping In human beds. Shes had a few accidents over the years but nothing major. Ive been married 16 years. Read my story above. I just dont know what to do anymore. He has two old dogs. To think she would choose this animal over me, that she does not care for, was pretty upsetting. None of the begging nonsense excessive unnecessary barking etcfast forward. Really glad I found this page. It wont change believe me. It doesnt matter a puppy or an adult dog. He has let his own life turmoil set the behavior of this dog. You deserve a normal relationship just like anybody else but it is obvious that your not going to find it there. He sleep at his own house. Dogs are happiest in a structured environment where they know who the leader is and arent in a constant state of unrest due to rank confusion. If you managed to do these things 100% perfectly, your husband/boyfriend wont attempt to rehome the dog. He has appeared on his own TV show, been a guest radio expert, gives seminars, publishes a dog related blog, does rescue volunteering, and is active in promoting animal welfare and fair dog laws. The dog sleeps in the bed always on my legs and he snores very loud. Sorry, my English is not good. When we go over to the place where they live, he is all cuddling with them over the floor and jump on the couch with him and there is no place for me to sit next to him. We had discussed very thoroughly prior to living together that the house will need to be cleaned often and upkept to minimize as much as possible the hair. Good luck. Get the dog a doggy bed and keep him off of yours. A poster above said humans are not naturally monogamous. He said if he stayed up to watch TV, the dog would bark at him to come to bed. I visit friends with cats, but its not the same. I cant even take vitamins without this dog trying to take it out of my hands. How on earth was I supposed to know that someone was going to treat their dog like an infantile god-being? All similar to you except she got a second one to keep company of the first one! I did agree to having the dog with us because I dont like to see any animal suffer as I am too a dog lover. I broke up with him because I saw no possible way for this to work, and I didnt want to force him to choose between me and the dog. For starters, I would like to begin by saying I am not what you people refer to as a dog nut by any means. Its all about compromising and some women cant get everything they want just like men. Thankfully the cat is fine now. I should have seen the signs of this before moving in with him :-(. The narcissist thinks that getting rid of your pet means your attention will now solely be on them. Its good that there are normal dog owners like you. As we prepare for dinner, long and behold her dog is right there between us ready to eat as well! We tried create training and he broke the first one so we got a metal one. And my poor dog is outside at 4 a.m. My dog and his dog get along famously since they met when he was six weeks old, but now he doesnt want them to go for walks anymore because his dog is sore the next day. Even IF your house is a zoo at times! Although many people love dogs, not everyone does. I think my jaw dropped when I read this because I thought I might have written it in my sleep! And guess who has to clean up all the s***? I have two Jack Russells that Ive had for 13 years. Be Polite but Vigilant. I just want to be able to go home after a long day at work, decompress, relax, and enjoy my life. We have constant fights about it, especially when I try to discuss any sort of training with him. Its recommended not to let him walk off-leash and roam. Im a huge dog lover. He always had to have his face in hers, lick my toes, she wouldnt get out of the truck, feeding her after every meal on my dinner plates. Omg,I can soooooooo relate- except that my SO has cats instead of a dog. So recently I had a baby girl, and my husband has a 2 year old pit-bull. B Your siginifgant other most of the time will never care for the pet the way you do only put uo with it because they love you and let me tell you women that goes a long ways if your anything like me. I feel trapped in my own home, every evening and weekend I find myself hiding in my room while he cuddles his dog. Otherwise, the dog was great. Every dog site pushes the same narrative: there are no limits to what a dog is entitled to (along with ads for expensive trash to buy Fido). These people can not see that they are the actual issue. Unfortunately, they can live up to 20 years! After all, when on walks the dogs sniff at everything and my wife cuddles her dogs and doesnt always wash her hands or face afterwards. She has put a section of the room with pads on the floor so the dog can go there to pee while we are at work. One of them has a urination problem. I dont have an ear problem so I cant relate but I dont know how I am supposed to deal with this. Your husband had to take you into consideration over any dog! And when my dog nips the other dog to warn it off from the kitchen (my dog knows they are not allowed to scavenge for food in the kitchen), guess who gets punished? My mom told me if things had been different, I would have loved the dog. But, thats just my opinion, please use your mind to choose your answer not your heart. Ya, a poor greedy baby that could not stay out of cat food. 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